The Newest Consultant to the Hollywood Stars, After the Party is Over?
A disturbing new trend in Hollywood is raising the question, “What is a perfect woman and who says so?” Is Hollywood responsible for the rise in depression around the world and what can we do to feel better about ourselves?
Las Vegas, NV (PRWEB) March 11, 2006
The next time you hear of someone famous is visiting Las Vegas, Nevada, don’t assume that they are there to gamble. Working on the down low, Matthew Dovel has been a consultant with many famous Hollywood individuals, from producers to top actors, for many years now. But, you will not hear Mr. Dovel name drop with those that he has consulted with, because Mr. Dovel is known as an international suicide prevention expert. He’s rarely called as a guest for a party hosted by the rich and famous, but he’s the first one they call when the party is over. He keeps the names of those he has consulted with extremely confidential and keeps no written records, as the stigma of suicide is very real in Hollywood.
So, what are some of the issues that are plaguing the rich and famous of Hollywood? They have the looks, fame and fortune, how can they be unhappy. And, if they are unhappy, how do the rest of us stand a chance?
One of the main issues plaguing actors today is the art of airbrushing. Airbrushing is done in all forms of advertising, and now on the silver screen causing actors to have to deal with fans gasping in shock when they see them as they really are! It used to be that only old age for actors would cause them to isolate themselves from fans, but now isolation has even been found with the younger actors. Sometimes actors can even develop phobias about meeting new people or just going outside. Ironically the general public also is suffering from the affects of airbrushing art. Women feel that they must live up to the standards set in beauty magazines and by movie stars! Men are setting their standards of women too high with expectations from the women that they have seen in advertisements. When in reality these role models do not even exist. The back lash from all of this false advertising is a steady rise in alcohol abuse, drug addiction and suicide rate.
Fans can make actors think that they are very special, for a time, and when the fame is gone it leaves a person, that was once worshiped by thousands, to deal with feelings of abandonment.
Fortune can also cause stress to those that do not know how to manage it. The more you have, the more you have to manage. People that become wealthy too quick generally become a slave to their money loosing something that most of us take for granted, piece of mind.
The warning signs of suicide are:
1. Eating habits drastically change. Not eating with noticeable and drastic weight loss, or over eating, with noticeable and drastic weight gain.
2. Individuals giving away personal possessions.
3. Individuals are suddenly happy after a long depression.
4. Individual says they want to die.
5. Recent death or breakup of important relationship. Can include pets and job loss!
6. Within two weeks of a recent diagnoses of terminal or permanent illness.
7. An increase in drug and or alcohol use.
What to do if you think someone is depressed or maybe having suicidal thoughts.
1. DO NOT LEAVE THEM ALONE, until after you can get them help.
2. If person wants to attempt suicide take them to the emergency room if you can.
3. Call 911 if you can’t take them to the emergency room.
4. Talk to them about how they are going to kill themselves. You cannot catch suicide and after hearing themselves talk about how they are going to do it, they most likely will change their minds. Do see that they seek some kind of counseling or other professional help as soon as possible.
5. Stay involved in the treatment process of this temporary illness. The worst thing that you can do is stay away from a person that is feeling like they don’t matter. Isolation will increase in a person that is thinking the world would be better off without them.
A plan that is recommended by Matthew Dovel for living happier and healthier.
1. Food and a good diet. (It is important to eat healthy, for our bodies are like machines. You wouldn’t put oil in your cars gas tank, so don’t put food that is not healthy in your mouth!)
2. Have a buddy. (Everyone needs to have a close friend that they can confide in and should talk with them regularly. The buddy will know right away if something is wrong.)
3. Goals and dreams. (Everyone should have a goal list that they can see everyday and be working on. There should be three types of goals: Short-term, median, and long-term. About ten to fifteen goals at any given time is good and when one goal is completed, add a new one. This will give your life direction and help to eliminate feelings of being lost.)
4. Feelings have never killed anyone! (Whatever you are feeling, it will pass and only time will help you get through what you are experiencing right now. Journal your thoughts in time of crisis and the next time you feel this way, you will remember how you got through the last situation.)
5. Limit your computer and TV time! (Get outside whenever possible and smell the fresh air. We need to have cognitive interaction with others to keep the mind active.)
Suicide is a very serious issue not only with the rich and famous of Hollywood, but all over the world. Over seven million people attempt suicide each year around the world, and over one million people succeed. Suicide crosses all boundaries of social status, race and creed literally affecting everyone! Chances are that most everyone in their lifetime will have a close friend or family member commit suicide. If you are lucky, you will know what to do before a tragedy occurs.
To contact Matthew Dovel for an interview or to request a review copy of his book, “My Last Breath.”
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